Is there really something wrong with me?

Is there really something wrong with me?

I'm 18, and I've never had a boyfriend.
I've gotten asked out quite a few times in the past 2 years, but I've never felt comfortable enough with the guy to decided to be in a relationship with.

I'm waiting for 'the right guy' but what if that never happens? Maybe I should just suck it up and date whoever comes my way? Should I get rid of my high standards?


Hi No Relationship,

Whether you are 18, 28 or 38, there is a way to break out of this pattern that just doesn't seem to serve you. My Relationship Coach Dr. Pat Allen always told her students "to date three at a time."

If you cannot find just the right person, date three at a time. Do this for many reasons.

One reason is it breaks up this pattern of waiting for "just the one right person" and having no fun at all during the entire process. How are you supposed to find this right person if you don't date? Are you saying you want to wait until you meet this one incredibly hot guy who is into you as much as you are into him? This is the way it happens in movies or on TV. Relationships for the most part do not happen this way.

Waiting for the just the right person many times means you are so hot for this person he must be the one. Well that means you have a great physical attraction to him, but will that work out in the very long run?

When you date three, you don't get so caught up in one person, you seem needy or too easy to get. Both are turnoffs to guys. Guys want a challenge. They want to win you over. If you are dating two other guys while you are dating him, this is a great challenge to treat you great and win you over. (You just need to make sure that the challenge isn't the only reason for his interest in you). It also makes you appear more valuable as a possible mate as you have two other guys interested in you.

Another great reason to do this is you will have three guys taking you and showing you a good time. Now this process should not have anything to do with having sex. Don't have sex with three guys. Just date them. Let three guys take you out and have fun with them. If one turns sour, let him go and allow another to take you out.

With this process, you will be having fun, appear busy and desirable to other guys. As time goes on, one guy may start to impress you more than others. You may start to naturally develop feelings for him over time. He is your guy.

If this does not work out again, start the process and continue to meet new people and have fun.
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